Hey! It's Saturday night (When I'm typing this- trying to do Sunday uploads though) and I (Alison) have a very bad headache. However, I can't seem to get to sleep even though I've been out all day and had a bit of a late night at Sabrina's last night, so here I am throwing some of my ideas about how I got the confidence I have today and how I could possibly gain more in a hope to help anyone reading this.
Okay, so I think Sabrina and I can both agree on the fact that we weren't the most confident girls in our younger years and even earlier than now teen years, however, and I feel for me this has especially been over the past two years, we've come a long way.
I think one of the main things that helped me over this time was moving away from Scotland; to a new home, a place I didn't know at all, with brand new people. This meant that I had to talk to everyone for the first time and 'sell myself' in order to make friends. So, while I don't want you all to move away from your homes to find confidence (because it did cause me a lot of problems too, that if you want to hear about you can let me know in the comments and I'll write what I feel would be helpful), selling yourself to others really does help. If you tell yourself regularly that you are confident- even if it's standing in front of the mirror every day and saying out loud 'I am beautiful'- and start the conversations, eventually it will just be that way.
I think that one aspect that many struggle to be confident in is the way they look. I used to constantly pick out my flaws; complain about my stomach, stare in the mirror at spots, constantly hate on my, what I called, 'thunder thighs'. But now, I tell myself multiple times a day how pretty I am. You do start to see it when you convicne yourself of it.
Another major way I became confident in myself was having a really strong group of friends around me- or more, the realisation that I did. I'm very thankful to have always had great friends, who are supporting and kind, lovely people- and I know you can't just get up and get friends like you can with other aspects of life, but try to always be positive to others and they'll likely do the same back. Sabrina is probably a major part of this, as while I've always had best friends, and great people, with Sabrina I feel so much better, and we're constantly building each other- noticeably so. I will say however, if people are treating you badly, don't feel as though you have to stay kind to them- stick up for yourself and seek help when and where it is needed.
My main, and probably most important, point in finding confidence is to enjoy life. Over the last two years, or probably especially the last few months, I've found myself outside more, seeing my friends regularly, listening to upbeat music, taking pictures whenever I get the chance and slowly, more and more, doing what I want to be doing with my life. I think that being happy with the world and people around you is so key to being happy in yourself (which all adds to confidence)- so whenever you can, take the opportunities given to you, whether that's in school, your community, with family or friends, or just getting out of the house- take it and make the most of it.
How would you tackle a lack of confidence? Let me know in the comments and we can all learn from each other!
See you soon with another blog post,
- Alison
Okay, so I think Sabrina and I can both agree on the fact that we weren't the most confident girls in our younger years and even earlier than now teen years, however, and I feel for me this has especially been over the past two years, we've come a long way.
I think one of the main things that helped me over this time was moving away from Scotland; to a new home, a place I didn't know at all, with brand new people. This meant that I had to talk to everyone for the first time and 'sell myself' in order to make friends. So, while I don't want you all to move away from your homes to find confidence (because it did cause me a lot of problems too, that if you want to hear about you can let me know in the comments and I'll write what I feel would be helpful), selling yourself to others really does help. If you tell yourself regularly that you are confident- even if it's standing in front of the mirror every day and saying out loud 'I am beautiful'- and start the conversations, eventually it will just be that way.
I think that one aspect that many struggle to be confident in is the way they look. I used to constantly pick out my flaws; complain about my stomach, stare in the mirror at spots, constantly hate on my, what I called, 'thunder thighs'. But now, I tell myself multiple times a day how pretty I am. You do start to see it when you convicne yourself of it.
Another major way I became confident in myself was having a really strong group of friends around me- or more, the realisation that I did. I'm very thankful to have always had great friends, who are supporting and kind, lovely people- and I know you can't just get up and get friends like you can with other aspects of life, but try to always be positive to others and they'll likely do the same back. Sabrina is probably a major part of this, as while I've always had best friends, and great people, with Sabrina I feel so much better, and we're constantly building each other- noticeably so. I will say however, if people are treating you badly, don't feel as though you have to stay kind to them- stick up for yourself and seek help when and where it is needed.
My main, and probably most important, point in finding confidence is to enjoy life. Over the last two years, or probably especially the last few months, I've found myself outside more, seeing my friends regularly, listening to upbeat music, taking pictures whenever I get the chance and slowly, more and more, doing what I want to be doing with my life. I think that being happy with the world and people around you is so key to being happy in yourself (which all adds to confidence)- so whenever you can, take the opportunities given to you, whether that's in school, your community, with family or friends, or just getting out of the house- take it and make the most of it.
How would you tackle a lack of confidence? Let me know in the comments and we can all learn from each other!
See you soon with another blog post,
- Alison